Just because you can breed, doesn’t make you a mom.

That’s what Sandra Bullock recently said.   I fully agree.  On Friday, my stepdaugther ran down to the neighbor’s house to see her friend’s new puppy.  This family down the street has some serious problems and is struggling a bit financially.  Their house is a wreck– stuff and junk EVERYWHERE, and the husband is out of work (they inherited the house from an Aunt).  The mom works at a bar late at night, and they have 2 kids (age 9 and 2).  I ran down the street with my stepdaugther, and the wife answered the door.  She’s a very interesting character to put it mildly.  She starts yapping about how she went to her OB/gyn to ask him to prescribe Yaz (BC pill) for her.  Blah blah blah blah blah.  She just kept on yapping 100 miles per hour, then ended with “and I found out I was already 3 months pregnant“.  She’s late 30s (maybe 40 now).  I was stunned, shocked, and appalled.  It felt like I was kicked in the gut and had my heart ripped from me.  How come a woman like her– who doesn’t even want more children and can’t afford them– be pregnant without even trying??!!  And be a MOM?!!  Oh, the cruelty of life!!!!

Top that off with our next door neighbors are early 20s and pregnant.  She’s due in May, so she’s quite big.  I hate going outside and seeing anyone now…. summer will suck even more when I’m surrounded by babies. 

It’s so unfair to see all of the females who breed and shouldn’t be moms.  So cruel.  All of the “accidents” that happen.  WTH?  It’s really pissing me off lately.



  1. Linda said,

    February 23, 2010 at 2:48 am

    It’s totally unfair and doesn’t make an iota of sense.

    Sorry that you’re surrounded by this. I know. WTF.

  2. T said,

    March 1, 2010 at 4:14 pm

    It is unfair. I will say that the “unfit” woman in her thirties has had two children already. That seems to matter in the world of IF. Your stats. are higher if you’ve given birth before. Maybe your body remembers how to respond. The twenty something neighbor was just smart. She tried early and has young eggs. I wish I’d been a little smarter. We just thought that we’d wait until the time was right. Only someone forgot to warn my body.

    There’s always hope and you have a perfectly good try coming up. Is DH on any vitamins? You might want to ask him to step it down for the next two weeks. A friend’s ex. was on loads of vitamins for body building and she had 3 miscarriages. They tested him and said that he was okay but the vitamins might be affecting things. After they divorced she ended up getting a BFP from her new DH and she was 39. No IVF all natural. Also, stay off the Tylenol PM. I think that the less meds. that you have in your body the less of a chance that a BFN is caused from external factors. It’s just something to think about.

    You should be really excited right now! Try to stay positive!


  3. Cialis said,

    March 8, 2010 at 6:27 pm

    89DfFi Excellent article, I will take note. Many thanks for the story!

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